Fraderica Smith

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What is your career?


Accountant and high school basketball coach

How long have you been married?


1 year 2 months 


What is your love story?


T.J. and I attended kindergarten together at Huntley Hills Elementary, in Chamblee, GA. While I stayed there through 6th grade, T.J. left and finished elementary school elsewhere. We both grew up playing sports at the same recreation center, so we were around each other the majority of our childhood. One day, sometime around our freshman year in high school, T.J. called me (got my number from a mutual friend) after hearing his mom go on and on about how "pretty" I looked at the rec center that day. T.J. says it was at this moment he thought "I'm going to get her." We began talking everyday and really became best friends. It wasn't until junior year of HS that we began dating. We dated through our freshman year in college, then went through a rough 4-5 years. About 3 years after I graduated college and moved back home, we began hanging out again and within months we knew this was it, we didn't want to be with anyone else. 10 years after first falling in love, we became husband and wife!

How did you know your husband was the one?


I knew T.J. was the one when God brought him back into my life at a time when I was depressed and feeling unworthy of being loved and allowed for me to fall in love with him all over again. God put my mind and heart at peace over every single thing I had ever questioned or doubted about T.J. being the one for me, and once I felt that sense of peace, I knew God was telling me that he was the one. Then after confessing to him the things that led to my weakened mental state, seeing that he was still there for me and willing to love me through everything, I was once again reassured that he was the one God had purposely placed here for me. 

What was the best part about your wedding day?


I can't pinpoint one moment that was the best because the entire day was a dream come true. But the one thing that I will always remember and love is how calm I was the entire day. I remember I always thought I would be an emotional wreck on my wedding day, but that day, I was so sure and so at peace with the idea of spending the rest of my life with T.J. that I felt nothing but pure joy in my heart. Feeling that way just made me enjoy every single part of the day so much more. 

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What is one piece of advice you would like to share to a newlywed?


Enjoy every single moment you get to spend with your spouse and over communicate! The one thing that I have come to live by since being married is to not let things I get annoyed with or upset about get in the way of me enjoying the time I am blessed to spend with my husband. Whenever I get frustrated with things he does or doesn't do and I want to be mad or give the silent treatment, I literally can't because I just think, "he could be gone at any moment". Things that often come between married couples stem from poor communication, in my opinion. And by me having the mindset of "he could be gone at any moment", it forces me to be a better communicator, to talk through my frustrations and feelings so that we can get it resolved and move past it as quickly as possible and get back to loving on each other. 

What is one or two pre-marriage tips or scriptures you would give a bride?


1. Make sure you are whole before you get married. And the only one who can make you whole is God. While my husband provides the perfect balance to my life, I know that my relationship with God is what makes me complete and whole. Knowing that it is God that makes you whole, complete, & truly happy will prevent you from wrongly putting that pressure on your spouse. 


2. Make sure you know how to pray and pray often before you get married. With your spouse, but more importantly, alone. While I think that growing closer to God as one with your spouse is one of the greatest things about marriage, I also think (and have learned from experience) that it is so important to maintain your individual relationship with God. As a woman, we are often more emotional than men and carry a lot of responsibilities in the household. It can become overwhelming, but through prayer and maintenance of a strong relationship with Christ, you will be able to handle and get through anything. 


What does living a life Faith + Fulfillment mean to you?


To me, living a life Faith + Fulfillment means to have a faith in Christ that surpasses understanding and to live each day to serve God. My main goal in life is to be who God has called me to be, to serve him in all that I do, to bring people closer to Him. I aim to live a life that allows God's light to shine through. I'm so honored and humbled to be chosen as a W.O.W. because that is exactly what I want others to think of me as. God has been so amazing to me and I just want to be a symbol of His love, His grace, His mercy. Living for Christ makes being a wife that much better for me. I have grown even deeper in my faith during this one year of marriage and being a wife has shown me how important it is to love my husband and those around me as Christ loves me. Which means being patient, kind, and forgiving, even in moments when anger or frustration or sadness want to takeover. Fulfillment for me comes from being able to bless those around me. I pray everyday that God continues to overflow my life with blessings, so that I may use those blessings to bless those around me. "I want to live a life poured out" - whether it is my husband, my siblings, parents, other family members, friends, strangers, I know that pouring into others what God pours into me is the ultimate gift I can give. 

Complete the sentence: Love is______.

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Many blessings