TRAITS THAT MAKE A GOOD BRIDESMAID
So, you want to be bridesmaid?This article is not to discourage you but to help you prepare yourself on how you can help your bride to be as less stressed as possible. I have been on both side of the wedding spectrum. I have been a bridesmaid three times in my lifetime and each experience was different but these main traits remained the same as to what each bride appreciated it that I did. Let me just tell you that becoming a bridesmaid is way more than just looking cute next to the bride. The good news is, you have me to help you along the way. Let's see what these traits are:
Being selfless. There is nothing more beautiful than someone who
goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others. - Mandy Hale
I love this quote because it is exactly how you should be towards your bride's big day! After talking to some other brides, you should be down for whatever the bride requests(within reason of course). This is her once in lifetime moment that will stay with her forever. For this one time take yourself out of the equation and make your bride's life easier. Please don't make her day about you.
Being Patient. Patience is truly a virtue and something that should be practiced daily. As a bridesmaid there will be times where you are frustrated with not only the bride but also with the other ladies in the party. However, you must remember to remain patient and allow the bride to work things out without you jumping to the gun about the situation. You can hold your tongue just this once - unless you are speaking up for the bride on her behalf ! :)
Being Financial. Lawd have mercy!! (yes I am country) Let me just tell you being a bridesmaid is not CHEAP! Your bride's style and personality will give you insight on if you will be financially ready to be her bridesmaid. This trait should not be taken lightly because at the end of the day you have to still pay your bills while you are going through this wedding prep journey. I am just going to leave that right there.
PRO TIP: If you have a friend / family member that you know may be getting married really soon, start putting back a little here and there into a savings to be ahead of the game.
Being A Communicator. The bride is going to have a lot on her plate throughout her wedding journey and she is looking for her girls to help her out at all times. During this process she needs you as the bridesmaid to communicate with her if you are good or not on doing something. You also need to communicate with her within a timely manner. Also, if by chance you don't know many of the other bridesmaids it would be great for you to communicate with the other ladies in order for them to get to know you and vice versa. Doing so will help things run smooth on the day of the wedding and not make things seem awkward.
PRO TIP: Communicate with your bride as much as possible and ask her if there is anything you can do to help her or the Maid of the honor periodically. She may say no, but it is the thought that counts!
Being An Organizer. Girl! If you never used your calendar in your phone or a paper planner, let me tell you right now you will need to start using these tools ASAP! There is nothing more frustrating for a bride to have to keep pushing back a deadline that she set up with herself or a vendor to keep the flow of planning. Trust me there will be dates thrown at you from the very beginning and it is up to you to make sure you are on top of your deadlines.
PRO TIP: If you are not great a remembering things, set up multiple alarms for you to stay on track. As well as complete each task as early as possible so you no longer have to worry about it.
These are just a few traits for you as a bridesmaid to think about and look within yourself and evaluate before saying " yes" to the bride. Please don't take these traits lightly. It is no fun for the bride to choose you to be apart of her elite squad on the most important day and you not be there for her throughout the entire process or make things even harder. I am sure she rather you be truthful and still cheer her on in the audience.
As always, I would love to hear your thoughts, so please leave a comment below or you can chat with me via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
- Many blessings!
Ashlee', wife ambassador